Hurt and Disappointment in Your Music Ministry
by Molly Shorter
Have you been hurt by someone that you work with in your music ministry? Has something happened that has greatly disappointed you? If so, how are you handling that hurt and disappointment? What is your response?
Whew! Those are tough questions around a tough subject! It would be wonderful if we never had to deal with hurt or disappointment. But we do. And it seems that, too often, hurt and disappointment are found among musicians working together.
First of all, I want to say to you, run to Jesus with your hurt. Hebrews 4:15 says, "For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin." (ESV) He knows and He understands! And He can take this hurt and turn it into good. Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose." (ESV)
As the Lord heals your heart, ask Him through His power and strength to help you to forgive the one who has hurt you. We have been forgiven, full and free. This is the kind of forgiveness that we are to give to others. This is only possible through the power of the Holy Spirit.
And finally, I want to encourage you that once you have forgiven the offender, to move forward. Don't dwell in the past, on the past offense, but move forward into what God has for you. Philippians 3:13-14 says, "But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus." (ESV) Make pressing forward your goal.
Now I want to say one more thing. None of this is easy. But it's necessary! This hurt, if left to grow in you, can lead you to insecurity, self-pity and self-condemnation or to anger, resentment and cynicism. You don't want to go there. The Lord has plans for you in the music ministry. He may be changing your direction and have wonderful plans around the corner.
My dear friend, when you're disappointed by someone or hurt by someone in the ministry with you, don't waste it on self-pity, shame, doubt, or self-condemnation. Know that God is still working out His plan. Run to Jesus with it. He will meet you and use the situation for good. Forgive, let go and move forward into what God has planned for you.
Molly Shorter is full-time musician and worship leader in the service of her Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ. She works with church musicians, giving them opportunities to develop and use their God-given musical gifts for His honor and glory.
Along with leading a large worship team, she is also a teacher to budding musicians, a playwright and theater director, a composer, and the writer of your enouragement here at Christwill Music.